When asked to name the most stress-inducing part of wedding planning, most couples will say “the guest list”. Guest list planning is an etiquette minefield as you have to try and stay on budget while also avoiding hurt feelings. As part of this process, couples-to-be need to make a lot of tricky decisions that require a buckets of diplomacy and tact.
In most cases, the first draft of the guest list will look very different to the finalised document. While it would be wonderful to invite everyone you like to your special day, budgetary or venue limitations often mean that this is just not possible. As such, chances are you will have to strike some names from your list. Removing people from your guest list can be a tough task, however, there are a few tricks you can try to make these decisions easier.
Dividing your list into categories is a good place to start. First off is your “A-List” which will include anyone who needs to be there e.g. your closest family and friends. Those who you really want to invite (e.g. friends and extended family) will then go into your B-List. The C-List will be made up of the names of people who you will only invite should your venue or budget permits.
Now that you have organised your guests into discrete lists, you should then arrange them into themed sub-groups. Some examples of these could include colleagues and distant relatives. Many people find that it is best to just cut these groups as a whole to avoid any awkward “why them and not me?” type questions. Remember that you can always invite anyone who didn’t make the list to your after-party.
For more advice on how to stay on top of an overcrowded guest list, check out the infographic below from The Wedding Band Shop.